Monthly Archives: October 2010
Here in the Languedoc-Roussillon region of France, winter is cold. Seriously cold. When we moved here almost 7 years ago, we never imagined that winters would be so harsh. We had expected something milder, more temperate. In reality, winters here are mostly dry, with very low temperatures and a cold wind that cuts right through you.
However, our move here was a decision we took … and then acted on.
Preparing for the Unexpected
Here’s the thing. When you spend masses amount of time preparing for such-and-such an eventuality, there’s a chance that you’ll be paralysed by preparation. I am absolutely not suggesting that you don’t prepare. Rather, it’s more that the search for every answer in advance of the event isn’t realistic. If you think that you’ll have covered every angle before taking the plunge, you’ll be kidding yourself.
Also, and very importantly, you could be missing out on a seriously exciting adventure.
Prepare to Adapt
When you decide to take the plunge and do something different, it is often partnered with adopting a new attitude. At least, the beginning of seeing things in a new light. For me, there was a shift from being very organised to becoming freer and easier. However, it didn’t happen overnight.
In new situations we need to be prepared to adapt. Give yourself permission to make some mistakes because that’s a great way to learn. Forgive those who criticise you when you slip up; chances are, it’s their way of dealing with wishing they had your courage.
Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself enough time and space to discover along the way. Enjoy the journey. Relish the adventure.
Embrace the Seasons
Winters may be cold here, but there’s almost always some sunshine.
Let’s get out there and stack the logs in preparation!
When dance is a part of life there’s something special going on.
In the words of Baz Luhrmann, Everybody’s Free (to wear sunscreen)
“Enjoy your body, use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.. Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.”
The dancing shoes shown in the picture are my own, sporting a few scuffs from the delightful activity of dancing. Did you spot the undeniably fabulous sparkly band across the toe? Go on, take another peek!
Dipping in to Dance
As part of our immersion into French life when we moved here, Chris and I began dance lessons twice a week. Great exercise, fantastic for improving general balance and enormously fun. It also offered a whole new dimension on language acquisition as we were the only English speaking students.
Firstly, of course, the instructress was French. She was inspirational – boy oh boy could she move.
Secondly, the call to “décalez-vous” every five minutes meant moving round a place to dance with the next person in the circle! When you learn to dance, it’s good to be able to do so with someone you’re unused to. It’s a versatility thing.
Oh so very much more than just dipping your toe into French life!
Dance for Health
I love to dance. I can’t help but dance when the music starts. Some tunes appeal more than others, but I find a good rhythm irresistible.
If I’m feeling off colour or just a bit down, dancing gathers up the endorphins and helps me on the road to recovery. Really, it does.
Also, as the master of my own jewellery workshop, I can get up and dance whenever the impulse takes me! Mercifully, I’ve spared you a photo of that.
Dance with Life
We all express ourselves in different ways. Dancing is one of my favourites. Making compasses is another.
There are numerous ways to interpret “The World is Your Oyster”. Some definitions suggest it means that if you have enough money, then you can have whatever you want. Others focus more on beauty, fame or youth as the keys that open doors to happiness.
However, this definition is the one I choose: “When the World is Your Oyster, you are getting everything you want from life”.
I recently made an impromptu trip from France to Holland and back. An opportunity presented itself and my husband, Chris, and I decided to take it. It was one piece in the puzzle making up the dream of where we’re going in the future. We grabbed some overnight things plus basics for picnics en route. My compass pendant was, as always, around my neck and ready for adventure!
The Warmth of Human Kindness
Throughout the journey, we met several lovely people. It was a heartwarming experience. Yes, I know, there are lovely people everywhere, but this felt extra special. On this journey people have helped us in so many ways, given us their time and made us feel welcome.
It has been a pleasure to share our joy with them and to hear their stories.
Thank you to all those individuals out there who made this trip so special. It was a pleasure to meet you.
I now live in a part of the world where it’s bright and sunny for a remarkably large part of the year. One of my favourite ways to exercise is to go exploring on my bike. Since I’m the master of my own jewellery workshop, I can choose to get out a-pedalling when the weather is irresistibly enticing!
Following a recent journey around these parts on two wheels, here’s a list of ideas for those intending to cycle in the area.
Top Tips for Cyclists
- Take plenty of water.
- Remember to drink the water you’ve taken. Have regular gulps and glugs to keep you hydrated.
- Take a mobile phone.
- Wear a cycle helmet. If you fall off your bike and bump your head, the cycle helmet is going to increase your chances of being able to remember (a) where you put the mobile phone and (b) what you’re supposed to do with it when you find it.
- Breathe Out. Breathing in comes very naturally, it’s automatic. However, when you’re a bit puffed, concentrating on breathing out every last drop of air in your lungs means your next in-breath is enormous. Do it several times.
- Use your gears. High and low gears make the ride so much more comfortable and pleasurable. If you don’t know how to use your gears – learn!
- Hunting here is rampant. Wear a luminous yellow jacket or some such – anything that clearly differentiates you from say, a wild boar. Why a wild boar would be riding a bike is anybody’s guess, but why risk it, eh?
- Enjoy the view. It’s amazing how much more of your surroundings you notice when on a bike instead of in the car.
Bask in the glorious feeling of having had a great bike ride.
Each of us wants to be the best we can be; to present ourselves in the best possible light. However you achieve this, be it a push-up bra or go-faster stripes, it’s a kind of marketing. Being your best self.
Whilst there is a time for the push-up bra – and yes, I believe there is! – I reckon it’s the person inside that really matters. The person beyond the packaging.
What sorts of things appeal to you? How do these things reflect the individual that you are?
In terms of trucks, I’m the kind of girl who wants a diff lock for good traction control. You can’t see it, but it’s there and ready when you need it. I go for reliability, performance and quality.
In terms of boots, I want a charming mix of elegance and practicality. You can read more about my thing with boots here.
In terms of jewellery, I want something that works as easily with an evening dress as it does with jeans and a t-shirt. Something distinctive yet sophisticated.
In terms of life, I want to live it. Really live it.
Lift and separate yourself from the masses!
Express the real you.
My husband, Chris, recently did a portrait photo shoot which made me think about beauty. Actually, it served to remind me that I’m something of an expert on the subject!
To this end, packed into this post are some top tips on being beautiful.
And here they are. Ready?
First Beauty Tip
You. Are. Already. Beautiful.
No, don’t go. There’s more.
Second Beauty Tip
In the words of Baz Luhrmann’s “Everybody’s Free (to wear sunscreen)”
Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Third Beauty Tip
This one’s a bit longer but is really a continuation of the First Beauty Tip.
When you choose your direction in life, that is, when you decide to be yourself, then you will be well on your way to a life of fulfilment and integrity. Putting this really simply:
Fulfilment means that you’re doing stuff you enjoy.
Integrity means your doing what you believe in, or as one dictionary definition suggests, you’re in “a state of being whole or undivided”.
So, when you’ve got those two things going on, when you have the fulfilment and integrity side of things licked, chances are you’re going to be one fairly happy bunny. It can start right from the time you decide to be yourself. An inescapable happiness.
Being truly happy usually means there’s a smile, a sort of inner sparkle, emanating from your very being. It’s the sort of thing that hangs around even when you’re having a bad hair day, too.
Now that’s what I call beautiful.
The last few fabulous days have been spent with friends who came to visit us here in France. The seasons are changing, but we were easily able to spend a day on the beach, walk along the water’s edge, barbecue sausages and enjoy the warm sunshine. I also buried my feet in the sand. It was all part of a keeping-very-still thing.
In my world, much needs to be done right now. With big chunks of change and amidst various projects, in the workshop and out, time for rest and exercise has been squished. I know I’m going in the right direction. There are also times when it’s all about getting on with what needs to be done. However, having spent some time with my feet buried in the sand, I also know that, from time to time, I need to … just stop.
Bury Your Head? Or your Feet!
Some people bury their heads in the sand. They avoid dealing with situations that need attention, and refuse even to think about them. However, in my opinion, burying your feet in the sand is the way to go. Burying my feet in the sand meant time to think. It meant keeping still, enjoying the company of my friends, the perfect weather, the special moments. It also inspired some creative thinking about next steps on my journey, my adventure.
One of my friends was hoping that I might be quiet for a bit, too. You know – actually stop talking. Didn’t happen.
…and a compass set into the back!
…a unique design all around
…and small enough to wear everyday
View this Compass